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Should I be concerned that my 4 yr old won't make a decision?

He will watch until others picks a toy or a book or he will just say you pick "i don't know"

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Asked by mawmaw412 at 11:39 AM on Nov. 2, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Welcome to the world of 4-year-olds! LOL!
    At 4, children aren't really big decision-makers, so no need to worry.
    What you CAN do, though, is given them opportunities to "practice" by offering them a choice between 2 or (at max.) 3 items.
    For example, I ask my 4-year-old "Do you want PBJ or grilled cheese for lunch?" or "Do you want to wear the red or the white shirt?" Even "do you want to get a bath before or after you clean your room?"
    Simple choices like those help them make the bigger decisions later on.

    Answer by LadyJag at 11:49 AM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • He is 4, I wouldn't be worried about it. He needs practice. Keep the choices simple to help him learn. Only 2 choices to start with. If he doesn't want to make a choice, then he gets nothing or does what you decide.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 12:08 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

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