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What is the best way to stop a tantrum?

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Asked by SAfogus at 4:02 PM on Nov. 2, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Stand by what you said and dont give any attention. If your in a store, take him/her away from the situation until he/she can control themselves! Good Luck!! <3

    Answer by SabrenaLeigh at 4:03 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • The above. Ignore it.

    Answer by tootoobusy at 4:08 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • how about when it gets violent because they are being ignored? We're talking screaming, throwing things, biting, hitting, scratching.

    Comment by SAfogus (original poster) at 4:37 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • People - please pay attention to the age category the OP listed this under: ages 5yrs to 8yrs. OP - your 5-8 yr old should be waaaaaaaaaaay beyond tantrums. If he's not - then YOU have let it go too far for too long. He's being naughty and disobedient. Disobedience earns discipline in my house - and yes! By discipline I mean a good old fashion spanking. I guarantee a few of those and he'll stop. This is really unacceptable behavior at this age. Stop it now before a few more yrs go by and he ends up in jail for disorderly conduct or assault!

    Answer by Babylove76 at 4:53 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • Never give in. Ever. once a child learns a tantrum will not have a payoff, they will stop.

    Answer by KTMOM at 8:43 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • If they are hitting and kicking then maybe it is time for a spanking. As bad as you feel for it, maybe if you snatch them up and whip them one time and then make them sit down maybe it will get their attention. Once they are settled down then you can talk to them and explain why you did what you did and what you don't like about what they did. Plus be sure to let them know that if the actions continue, the punishiment will as well. Good luck Momma, I am sorry you are dealing with this.

    Answer by Peajewel at 10:23 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • look them dead in the eyes then walk away dont let them bring you to the negative situation stay firm dont give in and go on with housework what ever it is you were doing and thats knowing they wont get hurt if it looks like they might get hurt by them being out of control then it is time to get tapped on the bottom

    Answer by gianna530 at 11:12 PM on Nov. 2, 2010

  • Make sure he/she is getting enough one on one time with you and your SO. Lots of times they go for the negative attention when they do not get enough positive attention. Praise him/her when they do something right and give tons of positive reinforcement. Plus hugs and kisses.

    Answer by elizabr at 8:18 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • 5 year olds should have outgrown tantruming ... and if a 5 year old hasn't? That means that the tantrums have been working to get the child what they want. After all, if the tantruming didn't work, they wouldn't do it. So how to get rid of the tantruming? Stop rewarding it. and instead punish it.

    Answer by Gaccck at 12:39 PM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • at home walk away ! say absolutely nothing just walk away to another room and close the door . if they follow you , give them a good swat on the thight tell you will not tolerate this behavior , only when they can be calm and speak you politely will you listen to ANYTHING they have to say . and dont give them any more attention untill they do . in public such as a store . say nothing ! pick them up take them to the car. stand out side the car and dont give them any attention . ( same as at home )

    Answer by nanafor5 at 12:55 PM on Nov. 3, 2010

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