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do you think this is fair?

do you think its fair for only one person to decide how the rest of your life goes? as in your husband wont compromise on anything, such as separating but won't give you a chance to say how you feel. Do you think it's fair when you have no say on how you want your future to go?

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meagan678

Asked by meagan678 at 12:09 AM on Nov. 3, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Absolutely not! There isn't much that my husband and I don't compromise on and if he has "really strong" feelings about something and I don't he then proves his point. Relationships are 50/50 and always should be! After all its your life too!
    randibosin

    Answer by randibosin at 12:14 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • of course its not fair cause its YOUR life. Not anyone elses. No one can make you decide what you do in your future. I would never let anyone make rational decisions for me.
    ILovemyson1020

    Answer by ILovemyson1020 at 12:15 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • No one should run your life or decide what you want to do with it. That includes your husband. He is being selfish and does not consider your feelings at all. You shouldn't let him intimidate you. Be strong and stand up for what you feel and believe is best for your life. Best wishes!
    babysavy9

    Answer by babysavy9 at 12:16 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • he's just so stubborn, wants an anulement for no reason at all and says he can get everything we have as he can afford a good lawyer and i can't. ugh its just so annoying makes me crazy
    meagan678

    Comment by meagan678 (original poster) at 12:16 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • You chose your life, no one else. You want something, you get it. Simple as that.
    SaraP1989

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 12:30 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • He's a selfish, stubborn jerk, that's why you're getting him the *#&$ out of your life, right? Sorry for what you're losing, but it sounds like it will be worth it to get rid of him. Let him have it. Is it worth the fight? Start out fresh, a whole new you, and be good to yourself.
    Adelicious

    Answer by Adelicious at 12:34 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • No, you and only you are the responsible for your life. He sounds controlling. You need to put him in his place and quick.
    amessageofhope

    Answer by amessageofhope at 12:46 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • It is better to lose those things than lose your control of your life...If do not have children just grab your stuff and go! Now is better than after you have created a family because it is harder to do than when you dont. I would just chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:09 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • You can try to get legal help from googling your state and the words "bar association" Search the site for pro bono (free) help.
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 6:27 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

  • If he wants to leave you there is not much you can do. You can't make someone stay with you. He has the right to walk away if he wants to. Take it as an opportunity to do what you want to without him.
    bjane01

    Answer by bjane01 at 7:55 AM on Nov. 3, 2010

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