Hi Ladies, I have a friend and we have known each other for 20+ years. At one time I really valued her friendship, but now I don't. I thought she was different, smart, and an EXCELLENT mom. Now its all about her baby daddy. The things that they go thru it affects the kids. I really don't see why she don't see this. She's quick to tell someone about their relationships but what about hers. It has gotten pretty bad to the fact that I don't want to be here friend any more. Am I wrong for this?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:36 PM on Oct. 31, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by OldrWizrMom at 7:56 PM on Oct. 31, 2008
Answer by admckenzie at 8:18 PM on Oct. 31, 2008
Although, you can't make her parent the way you would like, you don't have to sit back and watch it. I have been in a similar situation. I had to cut ties, because I felt if I just sat back and watched I was enabling her. We chose our friends based on whether or not they have qualities we like. If they don't, then we don't chose to be friends with them. Even if you at one point liked her, people change and sometimes they grow apart. I, now being a mom, find myself including parenting, as a quality in which I pick my friends. You are not wrong. I think you should just go separate ways. It hurts, but your other option is to stick around, and that will only make you dislike her even more. Better to distance yourself, before you the dislike gets any worse.
Answer by alicia_4307 at 8:21 PM on Oct. 31, 2008
Answer by camtri3 at 10:25 PM on Oct. 31, 2008
Answer by Erica25800 at 8:38 PM on Nov. 1, 2008