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well my friend had a baby about a month and the baby daddys is not in her life or helping she has no job and her power has got turned off i have let her stay here but she is not in the best of the moods sometimes, the baby alwasy crys and i have bought diappers and etc for it she i mke her leave

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:19 AM on Nov. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Well, as a decent human being, you can't throw a mother and her new baby out onto the street. You can, of course sit her down and talk to her. Tell her what is bothering you. She is prob tired and stessed out and may not realize how she is being. As far as the baby goes, babies cry, you can't be upset with her about that. You may even remind her that this is not a permenat situation maybe ask if she has looked into a new place or getting money from the child's father or if need be, public assistance. Just try to be kind, this is prob a humbling experience for her.

    Answer by JLS2388 at 1:31 AM on Nov. 4, 2010

  • You could try and help her out other ways I know a lot of people don't like public assistance but it's there for situatuations like hers. Could you take her to pick up applications at public housing and at the foodstamp office, they also help with cash assistance. She seems to of given up and it's hard when you feel alone. Please try and encourage her. Pray for her. If this doesn't work then it's time to tell her that you've tried helping her all you can and that if she's not going to try and get on her own to feet she'll have to find some where else to live. Make sure you give her a dead line of when to be out. She'll then be forced to see about herself and her child. May GOD bless you for being a friend and all that you do to help people.

    Answer by suelo74 at 1:37 AM on Nov. 4, 2010

  • Im with suelo....try getting her some state assistance. It is not your child to raise but at the same time you can just throw them out either....not with a child....If you are a SAHM then let her get out to pick up applications for work and you can take care of the little one when she is at work until she gets on her feet. And babies cry..its just what they do you already know this. Although I do know its hard when your kids no longer do this and you get thrown back into it with no warning. But try to tell her that she is going to need to find a new place in a month because its hard with your family to have so many people in the house all the time. A friend of mine just got kicked out of her place because her husband didnt pay their rent and then her mom kicked her and her 3 kids out on the she is now in a shelter and getting back on her feet more so then when her mom was helping. good luck and hang in there.

    Answer by Shelii at 2:18 AM on Nov. 4, 2010

  • I would not just put her back on the street she has no were else to go and no one to help her the father has stated he does not wnat anything to do wth the baby or wont even give her money for diappers or anything i am just a bit streesed out probley cause my kids are 10 and 4 and have not had a baby around

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 6:54 PM on Nov. 4, 2010

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