A lot depends on the age of the child. If they are young and not very verbal, you could set a timer for a minute or two and take turns. If they are older and verbal, this is a great time to teach them the skill of working out a problem. You could say, "I see you both want to use that toy." Kids will usually say something at this point! You could ask them what they think would work. They often come up with a solution of who could use it first. If they don't, you coulld ask if they could think of a way that they can use it together. Sometimes kids just need a little help in the problem solving area. It's all new to them so you want to use the opportunity to teach and also have them use the skills. If they can't resolve it (which happens sometimes), and you don't know who had it first, you can say that you going to put the toy in a shelf and bring it out later. But always give them the opportunity to solve it first!
at 1:15 PM on Nov. 4, 2010