You are strong enough! You never know how strong you actually are until that strength is tested. Divorce can push your limits.
Don't talk bad about their father. Tell the kids that you love them and so does their dad, but you can't live together anymore. Extra hugs, but don't overcompensate by letting them change their normal routine.Try to provide them with as much stability as possible. I also suggest family counseling, it helps.
I am a child of divorce and I have also been divorced. It's not an easy thing to go through with kids, but my daughter kept me sane. You just need to keep yourself and the kids grounded. You can do it!
at 12:51 AM on Nov. 2, 2008