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can a marriage last after an affair?

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dbrooks118

Asked by dbrooks118 at 9:54 PM on Nov. 6, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Depends on what you both (and I emphasize BOTH) do to restore the trust and love...therapy, counseling, communications therapy etc...it is hard work but I have seen it happen.

    4_28_bbboy

    Answer by 4_28_bbboy at 9:55 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • Some do. But, the only way I would think it would be 100% the same is if it's never found out about. If I ever found out, I would never stay with the person again. I couldn't.
    m-avi

    Answer by m-avi at 9:55 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • no
    at least not happily and trusting
    PURPULbutterfly

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 9:55 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • It's possible. Go to counseling, and make sure you BOTH want it to work! Good luck!
    mrskrisher

    Answer by mrskrisher at 9:56 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • It can, but once you lose trust with someone I think it's very hard to get that back. It would take a lot of work , time and dedication to the marriage from both people to make it work.

    Shines3

    Answer by Shines3 at 9:58 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • It can, but I don't think it is ever really the same.
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 10:10 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • It can, if you BOTH put 100% into.
    clovismommy25

    Answer by clovismommy25 at 10:10 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • It depends....my step daughter has a husband who screws around all the time...yet she does not blame him she just blames the girls.
    I myself could no longer be with a man who slept with another
    wheresthewayout

    Answer by wheresthewayout at 11:44 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • The forgive part may be easy, it's the forget and never bring it up part that will determine whether you truely can overcome the affair. Trust is very hard to regain once broken. It also depends on the kind of person you are. Can you get past it? Will you wonder every time he is late if he's out having another affair? This will be the make it or break it point. Me, I tend to never forget anything. (when it comes to someone doing me wrong) I couldn't stay with a man who cheats.
    DeeMomOfFour

    Answer by DeeMomOfFour at 11:56 PM on Nov. 6, 2010

  • I feel like it can't because once you break that trust, you will always feel like their doing something or lying, but if their is a couple who can make it work after a affair, then that's a beautiful thing
    Mrs.Stancil

    Answer by Mrs.Stancil at 12:13 AM on Nov. 7, 2010

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