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Does anyone know how to handle a 7 year old with severe anger and behavior problems?

We can't talk to her or anything. She curses and tries to break things in the house.

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firebaby26

Asked by firebaby26 at 7:57 PM on Nov. 7, 2010 in Kids' Health

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  • Take her to the doctor....also good nutrition, fresh air and sunshine....counselling....I would come at it from all angles....including spending time with her taking walks, and letting her have a lot of outdoor excercise...sleep...
    Anna92464

    Answer by Anna92464 at 7:59 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • You need a psychological evaluation as soon as you can get it done. Unless you simply have given her her way since she was born and let her run the show (I hopefully doubt this is the case) she sounds like there is a high probability of some kind of imbalance or mental illness going on.

    GrnEyedGrandma

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 8:01 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • With consistent rules, consistent bedtimes, consistent expectations, consistent (and reasonable) boundaries, consistent consequences, and consistent discipline.
    aliceinalgonac

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 8:19 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • Yes, consistency really is the key!
    caseyandkids

    Answer by caseyandkids at 8:22 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • By letting her know what is expected of her and letting her know what she can expect from you. And yes, by being very consistent in all of those areas already mentioned.
    justnancyb

    Answer by justnancyb at 8:34 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • I agree with the others - boundaries, consistancy and I would also seriously think about having the child evaluated and seek counseling to help with the anger.
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 8:51 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • Counseling for an evaluation to see if she has a mental health disorder. Anger management.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:30 PM on Nov. 7, 2010

  • See a behavioral psychiatrist. See an allergist for a food panel rast test for IgG to check for food sensitivities. Gluten & dairy are common culprits and can cause behavioral mood swings. Eliminate ALL artificial colors & flavors, HFCS, excess sugars & processed foods from her diet. Go back to the basics: meat, veggies, & fruit. Feingold.org is a very helpful website.

    motherofhope98

    Answer by motherofhope98 at 8:20 AM on Nov. 8, 2010

  • take her to a therapist
    Ashlynnsmommy07

    Answer by Ashlynnsmommy07 at 1:17 AM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Thank you everyone! We have our first appointment with a child psycologist tomorrow. She was treated once before for bi-polar and ADHD, but her father felt that the counselling wan't helping. Well after she threatened mysel, her grandmother, and her little sister, he finally sees she still needs help. And no we don't let her get away with everything, but boundaries don't help when she tries to destroy the house or hurt people. Her behavior is out of control and it's time to fix that.
    firebaby26

    Comment by firebaby26 (original poster) at 6:39 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

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