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party...bad mother?

so i went to a halloween party last night cuz its been so long since i had fun and dint plan on getting trashed and did...i feel horrible i coudnlt get homme last night and she stayed with her grandmother. i mean she was sleeping so she didnt even know i was gone. does that make me a bad mom?


Asked by SummerMom072208 at 10:57 PM on Nov. 1, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • No, you deserved that time! you knew she was in good hands, or else you wouldn't have left her with your gm...there is nothing wrong with that. a bad mother is someone that goes out partying and getting trashed every night or every friday night that leaves there kids with whoever, gets trashed and doesn't even care that they're interfering with other people's lives (aka the babysitter). so nope, you're good. if it helps, about a month and a half ago, i left my kids with my dh and went out at a gf's house and got trashed. i didn't mean to, but i had to stay the night there cuz there was no way in hell i was going to drive...

    Answer by armywife43 at 11:01 PM on Nov. 1, 2008

  • Every mom needs to get out and have some fun. By being irresponsible and getting trashed, it doesn't show a lot of responsibility, but at least you knew she was being taken care of by someone who loved her.

    Thank God, you were responsible enough to not drink and drive though! That puts you 3-1 of being a good mom in my book. I've been there, done that, and sometimes wish I hadn't, and don't anymore, but being a young mom is hard. Now, my first son is older, and I've now adopted a baby boy (age 13 months now), and wouldn't go out and get trashed for years now.

    Answer by sizesmith at 11:03 PM on Nov. 1, 2008

  • No...going to a party doesn't make you a "bad mom". Getting "trashed" to the point where you couldn't get home to your child is a BIT irresponsible in all honesty but who HASN'T made a mistake or two? We are human after all...yes, even mothers sometimes make Your baby was safe and it's a good thing you didn't attempt to drive home! Look at the positive must not have been COMPLETELY drunk if you were aware enough to know better than to drive!


    Answer by AvasMommy810 at 11:08 PM on Nov. 1, 2008

  • HA! looks like sizesmith and I are on the same page, so to speak! lol


    Answer by AvasMommy810 at 11:09 PM on Nov. 1, 2008

  • I don't think it makes you a bad mom, now- to make a habit out of it, that would be being a bad mom. Since you just did it once I don't see the issue in it, here are a few things to keep in mind: Irresponsible= getting so trashed you couldn't make it home, Responsible= recognizing that it was best to not attempt to drive home like that, making sure that your child was safe with a trusted family members, and realizing how getting trashed made you feel as far as being a mother and not wanting to really do this again any time soon. You seem more responsible with the choices that you made from the result.

    Answer by BabyBeans0506 at 12:10 AM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • No, and I am sure your mom was happy you didn't drive wasted. I was home ( I live outta state), and went out with friends one night. Your parents were young once and most likely understand. I'm sure you were left at gramma's sometimes too so your parents could get a break as well.

    Answer by MissHeidi0304 at 12:17 AM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • No you're not a bad mom. If I drink at a get together with the girls I make sure I am not "drunk" so I can still get up with the baby if need be at night if he cries or whatever. I am coherent at all times...just feeling happy! Don't make a habit out of it and keep it in check if you are going to be taking over the duties when you return after drinking.

    Answer by mamma2bubba at 1:07 AM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • no it doesnt,if u partyd with her with u it would,hell i wish i could go and have a good time,but there is no one around id trust,lol,plus i couldnt have a good time i would always think about her,i need help getting over seperation anxity

    Answer by angelairelan at 9:26 AM on Nov. 2, 2008