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how can i put more spark into my marrage

i think he"s cheating but then i think he"s not what should i do

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mary40407

Asked by mary40407 at 1:22 PM on Nov. 8, 2010 in Relationships

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  • First, you should gather your evidence and approach him and decide if he really is cheating or not. No sense putting a spark in a relationship that is going to end. If you decide to stay together (either because he's not cheating or because you decide to forgive it) then there are a bazillion ways to put a spark back in your marriage. Start with one of the sex tips groups on here :)
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 1:25 PM on Nov. 8, 2010

  • first of all dont jump to conclusions. that isone of the biggest mistakes spouses make when these questions arise. some questions you need to ask yourself are -- do i have any hard evidence that he's cheating? --are we doing enough things together that we BOTH enjoy?-- how often have we been arguing about petty things?-- is there anything i can do to make him feel special?-- is there anything he used to do to make me feel special but no longer does it?
    just slow down and take it a step at a time. if you are concerned maybe you should talk to him about it. but make sure you do it calmly and not irrationally. hope this helps
    mommy200785

    Answer by mommy200785 at 1:32 PM on Nov. 8, 2010

  • i think u should look into getting the book Love Dare. its a step by step (day by day)book that suggests things u can do for ur spouse to make him feel loved. usually the reason there is no spark ne more is bc someone doesnt feel loved as much. (the movie fireproof was based on the book) also look into the book called five languages of love. it talks about how diff ppl "speak" diff languages of love. some like physical, other emotional and so on.
    also ask urself why u feel like he's cheating on u? do u believe that he deserves a second chance if he is? what do ur personal values say about marriage? good luck. only u can find out the truth and what to do about it, but i hope this helps
    Phippsandrea

    Answer by Phippsandrea at 1:39 PM on Nov. 8, 2010

  • You should go get your hair or nails done something that makes YOU feel good, then when your feeling positive you can confront him or talk to him. Sometime when we fell down we assume the worst.
    raisingmen

    Answer by raisingmen at 2:04 PM on Nov. 8, 2010

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