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"are you going to cheat on me"

no im not married.. i want to marry him he's the love of my life. we live together.. we take care of our three kids together. and he just doesn't want to marry me.

for some reason i keep getting clues from other people that he will end up cheating on me because im a bigger girl. well, now i started having dreams that he's either cheating on me now.. or is going to.. how do i get over this?

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Audreysmommy123

Asked by Audreysmommy123 at 10:10 AM on Nov. 9, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Hon, have you talked to him about this?

    Do you listen to what EVERYONE tells you...

    But most of all listen to your instincts.they are right
    Punk.Princess24

    Answer by Punk.Princess24 at 10:11 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • i've talked to him about it.. and i dont listen to what everyone says.. because not everyone is in this relationship but it sucks when it's like more than 5 people telling me this ya know?
    Audreysmommy123

    Comment by Audreysmommy123 (original poster) at 10:15 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • some men and women cheat (at all, but once a cheater, always a cheater)

    does he have a history of cheating in relationships, yours or past ones??

    this is the biggest tell of what he MAY be up to now or in the future

    if he has not been a cheater, maybe you need to feel better about yourself and talk to him
    OR
    if he has a past with him cheating in relationships, then i would NOT talk to him, but listen to your gut/instincts and keep eyes open, do not make excuses for things that he does that just do not make sense or "fit". easy to make excuse for each little thing that does not fit, but when you look at all things at once that do not fit-harder to expalin away

    does this make sense??
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:19 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • Not getting the cheating because your a bigger girl connection. What does that have to do with it? Could people be trying to warn you because maybe they already have some information about him doing something he shouldn't be?
    Syphon

    Answer by Syphon at 10:20 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • how long have you two been together?

    are these five people who are saying this know him well, know him for a long time? know how he was in past relationships? are these people taking sides for a reason-like maybe they do not want you two together, or are they drinking buddies of his, know what he does or how he acts when out? depends who these people are, what are your feeling about these people, do they have your best interest at heart? some people may not tell you that he is cheating (puts them in bad position, the messager ) but know it is right thing to do by telling on a cheater

    what is your gut saying, not your heart, not any insecurities, your head, if you had to advise a freind about this man-what would you say...take your self out of the emotional relationship and think with your head not your heart

    truth is power, unless you want a pretend life
    fiatpax

    Answer by fiatpax at 10:24 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • he doesn't have a history of cheating on me.. but cheating on his other girls friends with me.
    Audreysmommy123

    Comment by Audreysmommy123 (original poster) at 10:29 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • OH...that's says a lot! I'm sorry to tell you but if he cheated on the prior one with you then most likely, this is habitual and he'll end up cheating on you with the next "love of his life." One thing, did you know he was with someone else and still pursued the relationship with him? If that's so, then you should have know better. There are way, way to many men in this world than to go after another womens man.
    ShouldHaveLeft

    Answer by ShouldHaveLeft at 10:44 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • go with what ur heart tells u not by what everyone else tells u to do
    diana398

    Answer by diana398 at 10:55 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • Oh...I think you're worried that what he did WITH you he will do TO you. That's a very real possibility. He's already shown he doesn't have honor. If he did, he would have ended his relationship before starting one with you. That is one reason you should steer clear of men who are NOT available.

    If he is never going to marry you and you cannot trust him, why not move on? (to an uninvolved man)
    DivaDynamite

    Answer by DivaDynamite at 11:02 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

  • He can't cheat on you. You're the other woman. You are the one he cheats with, not the other way around. So, duh...be worried. Don't marry him. If you can not deal with his wandering ways, cut him and yourself free.
    isabellalecour

    Answer by isabellalecour at 11:21 AM on Nov. 9, 2010

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