last year he cheated and now it's the elephant in the room. I can't seem to get past it and it's destroying me. He says he doesn't want a divorce and I'm not sure if I do or don't but I know I can't continue like this. Yes, we've been to counseling, etc. but for reason, he won't come 100% clean about everything and at this point he just screams at me "get over it already" at which point I want to kick him in the balls so hard, he ends up wearing them like earrings. I can't forget therefore I can't forgive. Help?!?!?
Here's a funny thing I've learned as I've gotten older...you don't forgive someone for them...you forgive them for yourself. Hate and anger only eat YOU up from the inside. You will never forget what he has done. Your choice is really more about trust. Do you trust him again or do you refuse to trust him again. It is a valid point. If you can't trust him what is the point of remaining married. It doesn't happen overnight, it takes a lot of time. It could be a good idea for you to return to counseling, alone, to learn if you can overcome the anger. Please know I am not saying you shouldn't be angry...but to move forward with your life, with or without him..you have to get past the anger.
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