I have noticed in a lot of posts that mothers are complaining about the way their child's SM acts. It seems that some SM feel that they are on equal footing as the mother or the father. If you are a SM and feel this way let me clue you in, being a SM doesn't mean you are a parent, it means you MARRIED a parent. There are of course, special cases such as the BM is not around or deceased, but for most of the cases where the child/ren live with the mother and visit their dad, the SM needs to realized that parenting decisions are between the mom and dad not mom, dad and SM. I also see so many complaining about the mom and the way the step kids are raised. If you have a prob with with mother of your boyfriend's children or the way she chooses to raise her children then you either need to realize that they are not you children and what she does (providing it is not abuse) is not your concern and get over any resentment you feel
Answer by Momof2kidz104 at 7:39 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by sue118 at 7:31 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
...unless they reside within the same home..then i'd think the SM does have some say. maybe not on equal footing as the BM, but if they share the same household, any idiot knows harmony begins where divisiveness ends. and some BM just cause drama needlessly. note i said SOME, in both instances.
Answer by dullscissors at 7:26 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:30 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 7:31 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by GoodyBrook at 9:29 AM on Nov. 10, 2010
Really, it all just depends on the entire family dynamic and it will be different for each family. It depends on the age of the kids, how long the parents have been together, the other parents involvement, how often the child lives with the step-parent. It's really just too complicated to have a straight answer and hopefully it's worked out in most families so that EVERYONE involved feels respected and appreciated.
Answer by skittles1108 at 7:35 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by sue118 at 7:37 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by matthewscandi at 7:39 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
Answer by sue118 at 7:41 PM on Nov. 9, 2010
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