About three years ago my dad found out he had colon cancer that had spread to his liver. He also found out he is diabetic and his kidney function is low. So he took chemotherapy for several months. Then two years ago the liver cancer was back and very virulent, meaning it is growing quickly. His doctor said he would have 2-3 years to live. That they would treat it, but it would never be cured.
So they keep treating it and trying different things to keep it at bay. Every time he finishes a round of treatment, my mom is sure he is cured. It is not true and will never be.
So the hard part comes when she calls me hysterical because he is sick again and it is always worse than the time before. I just take the new at face value and try to reassure her, but I don't cry and weep each time. I just can't. I would make myself sick with worry if I let myself, so I don't.
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Answer by ohwrite at 5:18 PM on Nov. 10, 2010
No, not a bad daughter. You seem very down to earth to me. Well done. I'd say. Because who would your mother turn to for comfort if your both hysteric and overwhelmed? You deal with it in your own way and she probably needs you exactly that way. There's plenty of time to grief after he actually gone. If I were you, I'd tell her and your dad exactly what you just told us. Not that you need their approval or something, just to ... just so they know. People need to know.
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