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For those whose marriages have lasted through the years: What is your best advice you can give?


Asked by momof2redhedz at 5:39 PM on Nov. 10, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Married 25 yrs and counting :-)

    * Open, honest, safe communication is a MUST. The 2 people in a happy/healthy marriage need to be able to and should be freely able to share anything and everything in this world with one another.
    * Love is an action. The feelings of loving/being in love are brought on by action. Continue loving actions through the years in order to contintue to be in lofe.
    * Laugh & have fun together. Life is easier to face head on when you can do it with a smile.
    * Work together not against one another. Life's hardships are easier to face when working together. Working agasint one another makes everything a harder battle to deal with.
    * Put in the effort to show one another the love/appreciation/respect etc that you feel for one another every day that you possibly can in one way or another.

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    Answer by pixie_trix at 5:51 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Communication Consideration and Compromise.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 5:48 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • don't hold onto things.....say if you get in a huge fight, learn to let it go (unless it'ssomething serious like cheating), pick you battles wisely, both of you do things with the kids, help each other out with everything and go on dates

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 5:42 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Lighten up! Don't sweat the small stuff and learn that you are both individuals...

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 5:42 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Hunn and I have been 2gether for 16 years and married for 14 and there is never a day that goes by with out and hug and kiss and a quick I love you!! We don't argue , yes we disagree but he has NEVER EVER called my names or have I ever called him names. Just be patient when things are not going ok in your lives and ALWAYS tell each other you love one another!! Our friends can't figure us out either, they are always saying whats wrong with you too you guys never fight?? Well I just tell them that all the things we have been through ( I have loads of health issues) there is no reason to fight!


    Answer by Korysmom96 at 5:44 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • I have been married 38 years, and I think the best advice I can give is to air out what bothers you communicate and when you do things for each other put all your love in it, and it will show. Over the years we have had our share of fights, but nothing major, also when you do fight make sure the making up is quick or resentment sets in.. Compliment and appreciate each other for your part in the relationship, praise can works wonders and affection is a must.

    Answer by older at 5:49 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • * Make each other and your relationship a top priority in life. Yes life is hectic, yes life can get crazy. However, if you put life above one another, life can tear you apart.
    * Share in each other's joys and tears equally. You are each others support in good times and in bad.
    * A mutually satisfying, mutually pleasurable, honest & open, mutually fulfilling sex life adds a lot of postives to a marriage. A sex life that is none of those things or only 1 or 2, can add many negatives to a marriage.
    * It is not problems/issues that tear a marriage a part. It is the way the 2 people in that marriage handle those things that can/do tear a marriage apart.
    * A marriage is made of of 2 individuals that are growing/changing all the time. The marriage must grow and change with the people.
    * Marriage is what you make it. It's as passionate, loving, fun, exciting .etc. as the 2 people in that marriage want it to be.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 5:55 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Married 20 years !

    Communication. Be honest with each other. Don't bring old arguments or the past into the present. Kiss madly and deeply, hold hands. Please your partner. Give each other space but also insist on date nights. There's much more to it but you get the picture.

    Answer by parrishsky at 6:16 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Together 15, married 13.
    Divorce is not an option, a threat or something that you bring up in an arguement. Go out on dates, have fun together, make sure you remember why you married each other in the first place. Marriage changes, people change, nothing is static and you have to grow and change along with it.

    Answer by Bubbie0809 at 7:23 PM on Nov. 10, 2010

  • Choose to love. Every day make that choice. A good marriage requires work from both partners but its so worth it. Make time to talk, and don't hold grudges. Work it out and move on. Small things allowed to fester can cause big problems later.

    Answer by duckigrrl at 8:27 PM on Nov. 10, 2010