I think what you want is to be legally recognized as his guardian so you can take him to the doctor and sign without your husband along, be directedly involved in his education etc. That shouldn't be a problem for anybody because it doesn't "erase" his mother, and it gives the child additional protection. I understand about grandparents being touchy about taking the bio-mom's name off the birth certifcate and making her parents' legal strangers to the child. But the day-to-day of parenting sometimes requires a legal document that a step-parent doesn't automatically get. BTW is the bio-mom just out of the picutre or has she passed away?
at 1:59 PM on Nov. 11, 2010