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What advice would you give to newly weds?

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newmom28

Asked by newmom28 at 9:52 AM on Nov. 11, 2010 in Relationships

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  • your not just a couple your 2 different people, consider each others idea and thoughts


    Spending time apart makes time together that much more special
    raisingmen

    Answer by raisingmen at 9:55 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • As someone who has been married 19 years- I would say a marriage takes 2 people giving it their all and working at it to keep it going. Be sure to love and respect each other, learn to compromise, and keep the communication going.
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 9:55 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Enjoy each other, love the quirks, and make sure you get out alone together at least once every two weeks for a date. You will need time to be husband and wife and NOT mommy and daddy.
    Specific advice for you: Don't think because he knows you so well that he can actually read your mind. You still have to tell him whats wrong, lol.
    Specific advice for him: Protector is good, dictator is NOT. Remember to include your wife on decisions you make because its no longer just your life :)
    an-apple-a-day

    Answer by an-apple-a-day at 9:56 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Communication, love and compromise.
    older

    Answer by older at 9:58 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • never keep secrets
    never assume
    Truelove77

    Answer by Truelove77 at 9:59 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • It's not always going to be 50%/50%--you might need to be the bigger person the majority of the time. Accept that life isn't fair, and there is no "happily ever after," so work on your marriage every day.
    GoodyBrook

    Answer by GoodyBrook at 10:01 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • always be respectful, NEVER EVER hit belopw the belt or call names no matter how mad you are. Once you start calling names, you begin to lose that respect for each other.

    Take time off from one another sometimes.

    Hang out with friends together & seperately

    keep fun ALIVE, do fun & exciting things together, This has acutally been a proven to keep sparks flying. When you get bored, you get bored with each other. Keep having fun no matter how old you get!

    also, never assuming is a great one. Assumptions will cause drama.

    ALWAYS listen to each other! Lack of good communication is one of the main reasons people divorce...
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 10:02 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Have an escape plan. Don't just go through life thinking everything will always be hunky dory. Talk about it, about what you expect and how you would like things to progress should the relationship not work out. I know it sounds harsh and I'm probably going to get bashed for this but I'm being a realist. We start these relationships with butterflies, rainbows and princess charming when in fact we are just dealing with day to day lifes fuck ups and defective human beings.
    ShouldHaveLeft

    Answer by ShouldHaveLeft at 10:17 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Forgive and don't hide things.
    Mjay84

    Answer by Mjay84 at 10:22 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Have sex as much as you can. Because it won't last for ever.
    mmmegan38

    Answer by mmmegan38 at 10:24 AM on Nov. 11, 2010

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