its possible! my nephew knows that i love him unconditionally and im very affectionate and we have LOTS of fun together. BUT he knows that no matter where we are or how much fun we are having at that time, if he is disrespectful or behaves in an otherwise negative manner--we stop what we are doing and he stands in a corner, if we are home, and thinks about how he will apoligise, or if we are out, we leave and go home so that he can sit alone, no tv and no toys, and think about what he did and how to make it better and then has to explain it all to me later...sometimes yelling gets his attention but he tends to absorb what i say better when im not yelling, and i have spanked him but it just made us both cry and didnt feel as productive. now he knows that i WILL spank if i have to but that there are better and easier ways... good luck!
at 10:44 AM on Nov. 11, 2010