I have been with my partner for 3 years. I have a 9 year old daughter and they adore each other. We have decided it is a good time for us to move in together. I share custody of my little girl so on the weeks she is with her dad I stay at my partners house and when my little girl is home she and I stay at my house and he comes over for dinner or we go over for dinner and such but we never stay past 9pm. On the weeks we are apart we miss each other and we do all activities as a family we just don't sleep int he same home. I cook dinner while they do homework for example. Well we have picked out the home and are signing the papers this weekend to start building. Problem is, I have no ring. I don't mind though for myself, I know we are solid and he has said he has it all planned out when others ask about us getting engaged. I just don't know what this teaches my 9 year old. Should I not move in until I have a ring?
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 12:35 PM on Nov. 11, 2010
Please do not think I'm being judgemental, that is not my intention....I think you have done a very commendable thing in showing your daughter the right way to handle things so far. Good job! (c: If it were me, I would get a very simple wedding band and have small ceremony - even done at the courthouse is fine. That way you are officially married. If you want to save up and plan a larger wedding, why not set the goal to do it on your 5th anniversary? That will give you time and still be a wonderful example to your daughter in your values.
Answer by scout_mom at 12:31 PM on Nov. 11, 2010
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Answer by bhoward87 at 12:32 PM on Nov. 11, 2010
Sounds like all three of you have a great relationship, you don't need a ring or wedding to know that you are all committed to each other. It sounds like moving in together is a great idea!!
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