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What do you do when your 15 year old daughter likes a 18 year old boy?And shes not even aloud to date yet.

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my5angels

Asked by my5angels at 6:21 PM on Jul. 4, 2008 in Teens (13-17)

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  • honestly, i would give her some freedom. not to scare you, i was 16 when i got pregnant and he was 20. my parents never really were strict about where i was going or what i was doing, but i was only allowed to have friends that they approved of. they didn't approve of him and of course at that age, you just want to do what your parents say no to. talk to your daughter. let her know the dangers of being with someone older. let her go out with him, not really a date, but a walk in the park or to the mall. give her a chance. maybe she'll see that she doesn't want to start dating, especially someone older than her.
    dastephan6

    Answer by dastephan6 at 6:28 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

  • everything depends on the kids involved..how mature is she? I personally let my kids begin dating at 15.
    The bigger issue is she is jailbait for the 18 yr old. Let the 18 yr old know it is not okay for him to pursue your daughter and that you will involve the police if need be.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:32 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

  • if hes kind that fine its not a big deal just stress to her have her watch videos like girl postive and 16 and pregnant and stuff like that
    Patience1

    Answer by Patience1 at 7:00 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

  • You just never leave them in a situation where they are alone together. :)
    LgFamilyMomma

    Answer by LgFamilyMomma at 7:07 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

  • you know what 3 yrs is not a big deal and you have to start trusting her and give her some gudelines to follow. because she will start seeing him behind your back the more you fight the more she will want to see him. remember when you was young oh and this experience talking my daughter is 17 and allowed her to start dating at 13 i know u must that is young but now she is more responsable in picking who she will date.
    smiley_36

    Answer by smiley_36 at 9:10 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

  • lol lock her in her bedroom
    craftygal76

    Answer by craftygal76 at 11:09 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

  • if you said she's not allowed to date, she's not allowed to date. maybe he coud come over and watch tv or something? maybe if he sees her as the child she is, he'll lose interest. or maybe, just maybe, you may see something in him that you like.
    princezzmommie

    Answer by princezzmommie at 3:00 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • Recently had the same situation with my 15 yr old SD. He was allowed to come over to the house when we were there and we took them to the movies and out to dinner. They were not allowed to be alone more than just a few seconds to say goodnight to each other. Unfortunately boys at that age are after one thing most of the time, and he broke up with her when he saw he wasn't going to get it.
    soonergirl83

    Answer by soonergirl83 at 7:03 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • if you give her trust she won't be in a hurry to do something irrational and regretful. Also feel him out and try to understand.
    brimarie8

    Answer by brimarie8 at 1:27 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • Check her maturity level have a talk she will be thankful of you letting her become more of an individual and a little more freedom but remind her with freedom comes consequences and you are willing to be consistent on the punishment if she exceeds your trust. Be firm but not to firm be loving but dont get walked all over.
    GoldieLocks18

    Answer by GoldieLocks18 at 1:18 AM on Jul. 6, 2008

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