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How do I punish my toddler for doing wrong?

I have tried everything...time out, spankings, smacking her hands, nothing seems to work and I am out of ideas.

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Asked by amber.m at 1:32 PM on Nov. 11, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Pick something and be consistent

    Answer by ballewal at 1:32 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • what is the child doing where they need so much discipling?

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 1:33 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Its not that she needs a lot of disciplining, just when she does nothing seems to work to make her understand that she isn't doing what she is supposed to. She refuses to listen, won't mind, and acts like a brat unless company is around

    Comment by amber.m (original poster) at 1:36 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • She is a's what they do. And they do it because they are exploring their world and have no concept of right and wrong and consequences. Disciplining won't help. Stop her ahead of time. Don't let her do it and then get on to her. Watch her and redirect her, keep her busy enough to not want to get into things...

    And as you are teaching can decide on a discipline technique and stick with it. If you constantly change, it will never work.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 1:42 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Well, she's a toddler. Toddlers can really understand why something is wrong, and they are not going to remember a lesson for long. As the responsible adult, you need to head her off. Keep temptations away whenever possible, give her plenty of acceptable distractions, keep your expectations realistic, and look at it from her side to make sure your reaction is appropriate to her behavior and the situation. If she's hungry, tired or legitimately bored/annoyed of course she'll be cranky. If you leave your purse within reach, of course she'll dump everything out and color with your lipstick!! When it's really necessary, keep your discipline technique consistent. A lot of bratty behavior gets worse when the parent loses control of the situation. You remain calm and in control to model proper behavior, and try to show her that good behavior means she gets loving attention from the people who mean the most to her (YOU!)

    Answer by Sebbiemama at 2:10 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • sounds like a typical toddler... 3 things i've found work really well for 1-3 year olds: distraction, if they are doing something you don't want them to do, move them to another activity. praise positive behavior, instead of looking for what they're doing wrong, give credit for what they're doing right. giving choices, even a toddler can make choices and alot of times it reduces the tantrums because they feel like they have control over a situation (only give choices that YOU can live with though). if there is a need for discipline, stay away from spanking/slapping hands, that is teaching them the wrong lesson. use time-out and be consistent.

    Answer by babymar at 4:56 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Punishment is the least effective form of parenting for any age child. It never teaches good behavior and rarely stops bad behavior. Children learn to behave worse. They lie, sneak, treat other children meanly, and resent or hate their parents. There are many other ways to parent. You can forewarn, distract, grant with a wish, give choices, change the situation. Authoritative parenting is the most effective form of parenting. You can read more by going to google. Time-outs only foster resentment. Time-outs are good for mothers to take if they feel like hitting their kids. Always put yourself in your child's place and think about how you would feel. How would you like it if your bigger, stronger husband hit you because you misbehaved.


    Answer by Gailll at 7:51 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

  • Redirect your toddler before she gets in trouble is the best solution. They have to be watched at all times when awake. Exploring & getting in trouble is what they do. Its a hard and exhausting job. I have three daughters 21yrs , 19yrs and 7yrs. and a 15 month grandson who climbs on everything. all we can do is keep him safe. good luck.

    Answer by diane261 at 11:38 PM on Nov. 11, 2010

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