You actually sound a lot like a girlfriend of mine. While she has the means and the ability to provide for her son, she's got some other issues, chronic depression, panic attacks and in general just being too tightly wound. She's a smart gal, and good people, but she's got some core beliefs that seem to get in the way of her being an effective parent. The result is that her sons behavior when he's with her is out of control and emotionally manipulative. My overall vibe is that she's so insecure, perhaps from abuse in her past that she fears rejection from her own kid, and is afraid to discipline.
Her ex is no prize pig either, but when examining which parent has the resources and support to get this kid not only through the next couple years, but through the long term I can't help but worry that 'emotionally manipulative' at 6yo could turn ugly before 16yo.
at 11:10 AM on Nov. 3, 2008