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what do i do if he leaves me?

i think hes gonna leave me and i dont think i can take care of my child or the one on the way by myself i dont want to be alone or have to resort to something horrible but im scared and i love him but i think our love is coming to an end what do i do

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babygirl41786

Asked by babygirl41786 at 10:56 PM on Nov. 2, 2008 in Relationships

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  • talk to him...
    crazybeautifulh

    Answer by crazybeautifulh at 10:57 PM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • What makes you think he's about to leave?
    rhope4

    Answer by rhope4 at 10:58 PM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • if he leaves, you buck up, and become the woman you need to be for your children. strong and independent, doing whatever it takes to see to it that they are cared for, physically and mentally. that said, have you tried counseling, together? if both of you aren't in agreement to try to work on this relationship, you will continue down this path to singleness. are you committed , both of you? if not, you need to start thinking about your financial future and that of your children. will he support them? will you need a lawyer? i know it sounds uncompassionate, but if he's ready to walk, you need to be ready watch him do it...but make sure he's going to support the kids/legally. there are lots of options...don't be hasty with your children's futures. i'm not saying you need a lawyer now, but just be prepared.
    thehairnazi

    Answer by thehairnazi at 11:06 PM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • You need to talk to him. If he does plan on leaving you, then he needs to know that he still has an obligation to his children. And that does include financially as well. If he does leave ( and i pray for you and your kids sake that he wont, but if he does) you will be amazed at what you can do by yourself. Dont be afraid to ask for help. Your family and friends love you. and you will need their support. You shouldnt have to live in fear that he is going to leave you. talk to him... GL&GB
    BabyBugsmama

    Answer by BabyBugsmama at 11:36 PM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • You need to talk to him first, like the other ladies said. Find out if he is thinking about leaving or not. If he wants to leave, you loving him wont make him stay. You have children to think about so if you dont have a job already, or if youre too far into your pregnancy, you should get one. If you cant right now, talk to family, they will help you. If he wants to leave let him. You stay, you and the kids deserve to have the home youre in, unless of course you cant afford to keep up with the bills. But before you jump to conclusions talk to him. Your hormones are all out of whack right now being that your pregnant so you may be freaking out over nothing. God bless!!
    Mommy_of_two_85

    Answer by Mommy_of_two_85 at 11:51 PM on Nov. 2, 2008

  • my prayers are with you, that you find the right answers, chin up...........
    chilimidos62

    Answer by chilimidos62 at 1:06 AM on Nov. 3, 2008

  • i know how you feel im 17 and my husband just left me with a baby girl and i was scared at first and didnt know what to do but you will be surpised how quickly you will figure out a plan for the sake of your kids
    akashaismyworld

    Answer by akashaismyworld at 2:48 AM on Nov. 3, 2008

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