I'm not fishing for compliments, I'm being serious. When we were first together he used to touch me all over and tell me how hot I was. Now... not so much. Now he hugs me and tells me I'm a "cutie patootie". WTF? I want him to stop and stare at me like he used to. I don't want any "Oh you don't need to do anything, you're fine the way you are." responses. I want honest feedback even if it hurts my feelings. I have a lot of pictures on my profile. Please take the time to look at them and give me some feedback. Thanks!!! And as a thought, his hottest most favorite celebs are Liv Tyler and Shannon Doherty.
Answer by kabbot01 at 7:06 AM on Nov. 3, 2008
I KNOW this may sound harsh...but (here goes)...when I was pregnant with Ava, Alex would tell me all of the time how "cute" I was. When we got married and for the years leading up to my pregnancy he would CONSTANTLY love on me and tell me how beautiful I was and how lucky he was to have a woman as physically beautiful as me. During the pregnancy, he would still love on me and when I asked, he would say "of course you're still beautiful"....but I had to ASK first. After I had Ava and the belly went away, he went back to the same loving way that he was BEFORE pregnancy.
Answer by AvasMommy810 at 2:19 AM on Nov. 3, 2008
I never really understood it until one day when we were in the grocery store and he saw a VERY pregnant woman and said "wow she's huge...she looks like she swallowed a watermelon". I told him that was mean and told him that when I was pregnant he used to tell me that I looked beautiful pregnant. He then said "of course I said that...I LOVE you and I didn't want to hurt your feelings...you were still attractive, it was just hard to picture you as a sexual being while you were pregnant with our baby...it just seemed weird to think that my child's mother is sexy". He didn't mean it in a mean way. He was just trying to say that he started developing deeper feelings for me and he thought it was disrespectful to call his child's mother "hot" or "sexy".
I guess what I'm trying to say is that maybe he still finds you just as attractive, he just feels more deeply for you and has moved past the superficial beauty and onto the internal beauty. In other words, just because he doesn't SAY that he thinks you're "hot" doesn't mean that he doesn't think that you are the most gorgeous creature that he has ever seen. Your relationship is evolving and so are his feelings for you. Congratulations!
Answer by knightmoves at 2:29 AM on Nov. 3, 2008
My husband HATES the "trashy" look.
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