I feel really sad and I don't even know how to start but I will try to make it clear and simple. My mom has been living with us since my dd was born, almost 4 years ago. She is going back home because my grandma is older and my mom wants to make sure she is okay, but her plans are to come back in couple months. Last night my hubby asked me if I already told my mom that he doesn't want back for more than 6 weeks. My heart just stopped for a minute and I didn't know what to say because she is soo much help to me and the kids. When she works which is not a lot she always give us some $$$, she also babysits and takes the kids to school and pick them up so I can work a few more hours. Now, I don't know what to do? How do I say something like that to her? I believe it is just not right, what do you think ladies? Please any advice....Answer Question
Answer by wildwiccan83 at 5:16 PM on Nov. 12, 2010
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Answer by Steph319 at 5:29 PM on Nov. 12, 2010
Did it start out as a temporary situation that just sort of became permanent without a discussion or did you all realize she was coming to stay permanently when your daughter was born? If it was never intended to be a permanent situation then it makes sense that your husband would bring it up now when there seems to be an opening for it; whether he's mentioned it to you or not he's probably been thinking about it for a long time. If it's never been discussed with your mom and you have allowed her to think it was a permanent home then it is going to be a very difficult thing to tell her, but you have to do it. Try to think about what is best for your mom too; it may not be in her best interest to stay with you permanently. If she's still capable of taking care of herself she could be out having a life of her own. Try to think what's best and not just what's convenient. I know this is very hard and I wish you luck.
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