to your children? my DF and his ex do to SD, who is almost 12.... she is getting d's in all her classes, back talks and wears tooooo tight clothes and way too much makeup... but never gets [punishment, just empty threats.. to take away her phone or ground her. there isnt a lot her dad can do, since we only see her EOW, but its getting to the point now where when she is here shes spending most of her time in the corner or beign yelled at for her mouth... sooo back to subjuect....Answer Question
Answer by raisingmen at 9:13 AM on Nov. 13, 2010
Answer by kileighsmommie at 9:13 AM on Nov. 13, 2010
Answer by IndigoRose at 9:16 AM on Nov. 13, 2010
Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:16 AM on Nov. 13, 2010
You both need to spend one on one time with her. Do some things that she likes or you think she will like. Go on some day trips to a museum, movie, bowling, a hike, etc. Don't let her tell you no. Don't ask if she would like to do it...........tell her you are all going to do it.
Have rules in your home that she can not break without real consequences. Every child has their "currency" which is the thing that is most important to them. If it is her phone, for example, tell her the phone will be taken away for part of the day. And then do it if needed. Do not say a punishment that you really will not do. That's how they learn they can walk all over you. GL hug
Answer by elizabr at 10:23 AM on Nov. 13, 2010
Answer by tyfry7496 at 11:17 AM on Nov. 13, 2010
I have to say that is one of my biggest things. I know it just teaches the kids that i might not really mean what i say. So I say just try and stick to your word. It's hard.Very! But the more you work on it the better you'll get at it. Me too. lol!
Answer by Be101 at 11:08 AM on Nov. 15, 2010
Answer by VienaMira at 2:45 AM on Nov. 17, 2010
Answer by shabbypink123 at 1:36 PM on Nov. 24, 2010
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