ok so i am an only child so it has nothing to do with whos side of the family. it goes much deeper than that. i find myself at christmas and such doing more for one than the other three. b4 you judge hear the reasons. it is always easier to buy for smaller kids anyways. is whaat i tell most people. that is not it though. my husbands sis had her 3 kids and i love and spoiled them. them his bros wife lost all hers we even had funeral for 1. she will never be able to carry long enough to have a child. so i carried me niece for her. they dont have alot of money so my husband and i did this for them using adoption. so i just feel a closer bond to her. however i do feel so guilty over it. i have battled this for 2 and half years. i just dont know how to handle it. i dont want to hurt the others. i hid and give her extra. i dont feel bad for helping them to have a child. i would do that again without thought. but the holidays r hard.Answer Question
First off, you are an amazing woman to do that for your sister. I'm not sure I would have the strength. Second, I can see where you are coming from. You have an extremely emotional bond with this little girl, my mom had the same with my oldest daughter. However, if there are favorites, you need to be more careful about showing it. As the kids get older, they will notice the favoritism and that will lead to nothing but hurt feelings. Good luck with everything.
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