Little by little, replacing them with someone (or something) else. I was in love with my best friend's older brother for 8+ years, from the time I was 14 until after he was married. And even then, although I knew I technically had to "be over him" and move on with my life, it took a few more years to feel like he really faded to the background and that the mention of his name, or meeting him, wouldn't evoke any romantic emotions. It took years to become so in love with him, it took years to get back out. And that was a fairly one-sided relationship. If yours was reciprocated, it'll take a while.
Be yourself, find yourself and do what you like to do. Live your life for you and no one else. If you have kids, love them to pieces and spoil yourself on occasion. And when you're ready, jump back into the fire and find someone else.
"Life is not tried, it is merely survived, if you're standing outside the fire." ~Garth Brooks
at 12:55 AM on Nov. 14, 2010