I hate who I am. But something happened today and I am ready to live life to make those around me as happy as I can. Life doesn't mean anything if you don't love as much as you can. But I can't just stop being selfish since I have lived my whole life like this. It ruined my marriage, almost my relationship with my parents and it makes me a rotten mother even though I love my little boy with my whole heart.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:18 PM on Nov. 14, 2010 in Relationships
I have no idea how you can stop being like this. (If you find out mail me, because I, too, think sometimes: "I wish I wouldn't be like this or that.") But if things happen over and over again, there is a pattern to the way you behave. Try to find out what it is. Write it down. Take a different piece of paper and write down little things you could change. Little things you could do. Things you could give. ... Maybe first of all a smile? Very little effort and costs nothing. Same with compliments. Try it and you'll see you can make somebody's day. And it'll make you feel good as well. What you give is what you get!
I don't know what "being selfish"means to you ... It's rather difficult to answer this one.
Answer by BeachMom81 at 4:29 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 4:34 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by Jenaiko01 at 4:37 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
And try to rephrase the "I hate who I am." into something more positive. You are who you are who you are. Lots of people seek aproval in others but really ... you're the only person you need to be happy with, because you have to live with yorself all the time. So what if you said .... I don't know ... "I dislike who I think I am." ... Gives you a bit more room and allows you to breath. You're not bad to the bone or something. It's all about your own perception.
Answer by BeachMom81 at 4:37 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by ShouldHaveLeft at 4:39 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by Jenaiko01 at 4:40 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by elizabr at 4:42 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 5:26 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by -LovingMamma- at 6:46 PM on Nov. 14, 2010
Answer by isabellem at 7:19 PM on Nov. 14, 2010