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if we arent having vaginal sex. is it ok to do oral sex?


Asked by jazmya_mom at 2:08 PM on Nov. 15, 2010 in Relationships

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  • it's okay to do anything if both partners are okay with it

    Answer by kaysimon132461 at 8:19 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • if you've decided that you guys aren't going to have sex until marriage than you shouldn't be testing your limits because it will just make things harder for you guys. besides that,,,, it's oral SEX... lol not a good idea

    Answer by khmymommi at 2:14 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • Oral, anal, vaginal...they are all still sex. If you are waiting until you are married then any one of those things is considered sex.

    Answer by Jademom07 at 2:14 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • OH! That's different. If you are waiting till marriage you should save ALL of it. Make the wedding night amazing.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 2:19 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • i think its really up to the people involved and how they feel about it...every relationship is different and you should talk to your SO and set your OWN boundaries for the relationship. it should be whatever you two are comfortable with. just consider that doing things like oral sex will make it much harder for you to abstain from having vaginal sex...and while you cant get pregnant from oral, you CAN get stds. he may tell you he has never done anything sexual with anyone before, but you can never be 100% sure....i should point out though that i do NOT believe in waiting until marriage to have sex, so i am probably not the best person to give advice in your situation.

    Answer by LoriaAnn at 2:23 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • what? lol i guess it's okay to have any kind of sex you want as long as you and your partner are into it

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 2:11 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • Ok sorry maybe i didnt give enough info. I have decided not to have sex until marriage but ppl are saying that its ok to still have oral but i thought the purpose was to not have any sex....

    Comment by jazmya_mom (original poster) at 2:13 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • oohhh... i think the purpose is to be pure for your husband, that imo, includes abstaining from ANY sex

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 2:15 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • Thats what I thought but the other couples that agreed to this are doing everything but vaginal intercourse. I thought that defeated the purpose in its entireity

    Comment by jazmya_mom (original poster) at 2:16 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • WHAT?!?!?!?

    If you aren't have sex before aren't have sex. You don't get to freaken pick and choose which sex is okay to have. That completely defeates the purpose.

    Not having sex is hard. That's part of it. It won't be anymore special if you're having every other kind of sex out there.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:20 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

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