This last year has been rough for us. I had PPD pretty bad and have been better for 4 months now. I had moments where I was terrible to my DH and took it out on him. Then I snapped out of it and he immediately turned on me and was very mean for 2 months. He just said he was fed up with me. Finally he is snapping out of it and has been much kinder and is trying. I am trying too. It is a struggle because we both have resentments for what the other has said and done. No cheating or lieing just mean words/actions. We want to be married. Its just hard right now. How do we make it work?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:32 PM on Nov. 15, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 2:36 PM on Nov. 15, 2010
Been there, done that. We ended up separated for 6 weeks while we both worked through our own issues. I suggest you take some time "apart". Agree to just do things on your own with no expectations from each other for a week. Sleep in a separate room if it's an option and just try to find yourselves first. Do some soul searching and figure out how just you screwed up (don't dwell on what he did). I found that actually worked for us. We needed time apart to sort things through and then when we both had our breather we were able to calmly sit down and discuss what we expected from each other and ourselves.
We'll be celebrating our 11th anniversary in January. Things haven't always been easy but we keep plugging along and working through the hard parts.
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