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How did you feel when your ex got engaged to someone else?

I dated someone called Alan years ago...I did not love him, but we had some really lovely times and I cared about him. He loved me and treated me like an absolute princess. In the end thats partly why we split- I felt bad because I didn't love him. He deserved someone who did.

I got married just over a week ago to the only man I have ever truly loved and am very happy. However I recently found out that Alan has got engaged. I have a weird feeling in my chest, like a lump in my throat. I do not and never did love him, but I can't understand what this feeling is. Im wondering if its jealousy as I know he's finally moved on from me? Or is it because I know we arent a part of eachothers lives at all anymore? I dont know! So just curious how others have felt!

Once again, I am VERY happy and loved up with my husband. So please don't bash.

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Asked by little.knickers at 5:38 PM on Nov. 15, 2010 in Relationships

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  • He's not, but if he did, better her than me! We get along and see eye to eye when it comes to our son, but I wouldn't want him back.
    I think what you're feeling is perfectly normal though.

    Answer by TARARENEE at 5:41 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • I think I can relate... I have felt little "twinges." I'm not jealous or have any feelings of regrets... but there's that little thing/sting (whatever you wanna call it).... lol

    Answer by mz_erica03 at 5:41 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • It's a touch of jealousy, acknowledge it and then just let it fade away, it will. I experienced the same thing. I dated a guy through out college and he ended up marrying a Sabrina with blonde hair that looked a bit like me. That helped ease the minor jealousy. ;)

    Answer by SabrinaBean at 5:42 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • I actually helped my ex husband pick out the ring. I am extremely excited for them and can't wait to help them plan their wedding. And yes, my ex & his fiance attended my wedding to my new hubby as well.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 5:43 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • He isnt but I honestly wouldnt care. I have zero feelings for him. So good for him he found someone new to put up with his crap lol

    Answer by JakesCupcake at 5:46 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • When my ex husband finally got engaged to the whore that he left me for it hurt really bad since I wasn't anywhere near over him.

    Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 5:47 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • Very normal emotion. I don't know anyone that likes to think they have been replaced. It will leave and you'll be wondering why you even felt that way.

    Answer by zbee at 5:49 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • honestly..i think my ex got married because i did. He was married to this girl that he only knew for 2 months just 3 months after i got married...their marriage only lasted for 4 months then he marrys someone else. IDK. I do know though that he is not one to tie down so i dont expect this second marriage to last that long either...if it does then she is one strong woman or either they they have an "open marriage"

    Answer by shay1130 at 5:51 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • It is exactly like you said...good insight btw.
    " Im wondering if its jealousy as I know he's finally moved on from me? Or is it because I know we arent a part of eachothers lives at all anymore?"
    You two had shared something special for quite he's sharing special moments with someone else.
    Although you didn't love him it was a period of time where you had someone that you understood and who understood you and now that is moving on and a chapter is really, finally closing.
    This is the "true" severence of that relationship and he's moved on.
    But you are strong and are in a good relationship so you'll be fine, sweetie

    Answer by Missikat75 at 5:52 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

  • I know exactly how you feel this happened to me about 7 years ago and boy did it really hurt but I have found out that through all my pain that he was not the man God had for me anyway I prayed for someone that would love me and respect me and I realized that he was not for me and then he thought I would stay after he married just so he say for the convience that he knew her 4 months more than he knew me but I say the H with that

    Answer by 1212tink at 5:57 PM on Nov. 15, 2010

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