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WHY DO I FEEL LIKE A SINGLE MOM WITH A SUGA DADDY?

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BABYCARLITO

Asked by BABYCARLITO at 8:13 AM on Nov. 16, 2010 in Relationships

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  • no detail, therefore, no clue. Hope things get better for ya. Find some things for yourself to do to make yourself feel like you have worth.
    Zoeyis

    Answer by Zoeyis at 8:14 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • Need more details
    nicjon

    Answer by nicjon at 8:16 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • why do u feel like that?
    alisha0030

    Answer by alisha0030 at 8:18 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I apologize for the vague details.........for the last 15 yrs i am the primary care giver and soccer mom........no help from the husband at all........no real time spent always excuses.........just tired
    BABYCARLITO

    Comment by BABYCARLITO (original poster) at 8:22 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • Sounds like hes a background dad. Bring it up to him.
    Misteh

    Answer by Misteh at 8:24 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • Maybe it's because you've allowed yourself to be treated that way? It's easy to go with the flow, do everything for everyone - but if you lose yourself it's time for you to make changes. Tell your DH you want more of his time. Tell your kids that mommy is going to have a girls night out. If you believe YOU matter, people will treat you like you matter. I'm sorry you feel this way, I know other women in the same position. They found happiness by taking control.
    Scuba

    Answer by Scuba at 8:40 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I kind of understand what you mean. My fiance does that the same thing he just goes to work, and doesn't want to do anything with the children, i just talked to him and im hoping things will change.
    keisha121

    Answer by keisha121 at 8:40 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • 15 years is a long time to put up with this.. and i'm sure that your husband has fallen into the routine and thinks that it is okay! Time for a change.. if not from both of you, then just YOU.
    Ctink8189

    Answer by Ctink8189 at 8:54 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • after 15 years the habits will die hard . In fact maybe not until the kids grow up and out of the home. Shoulda spoke up years ago imho :)
    Zoeyis

    Answer by Zoeyis at 8:58 AM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • During these 15 years. What all have you and your husband done together in order to try and address/rectify the situations that are causing you to feel this way?

    When you and he communicate about these issues, how does it usually turn out?

    Is he the sole income earner? Does he have a demanding/stressful job?

    What all do you allow him to /does he take care of in regards to home/children/family?

    If this has been going on for 15 years what have you tried to do in order to make yourself feel like more than what you described? What have you done for you? What do you do in order to maintain"you" outside of wife/mother?
    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 12:41 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

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