Our daughters 12 and 13 asked to go to the school dance this Friday, and we agreed that they could both go. Well they came home today and said everyone is going with a "date" and two boys asked them to go and they said yes. Well when my husband heard this, he told them absolutely not! They are not allowed to date, and he told them they could go with friends, but no dates!
Needless to say drama ensued and they both whined and threw a huge tantrum and my oldest stomped and started throwing stuff around. After that thier dad said they could not go at all for thier behavior and that they were grounded for the weekend. (groan..) I am thinking maybe give them another chance and have their punishment be something else?, but I don't see there be any budging on the issue.
Ladies what are your thoughts?
Is this a surprise to them? Have you not let them know that they can't date until they are... 16 years old? I was raised knowing that 16 was the very first time that I could even consider dating. It was a good rule! I lived by it and have raised my daughter the same. My sons also know our rules. They aren't as big a deal because they weren't interested till then. I would tell your girls that this dance is out and if I felt that this was going to be a problem then I would be a chaperon to the next dance. We need to be a part of our children's lives and we need to set limits and standards early and hold true to them! OH, BTW, your husband is the patriarch of your home. If he is a good father and husband then you need to respect him and show your daughters that you back him up! This will show your husband that you respect his authority and show your daughters the same. It's a good thing!
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