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i got pregnant an had my 1st child @ 16..i didnt have to give up anything..I was still able to hang out,still had a social,club,smoke,and drink if i chose to..tho i didnt i still like a normal teenager..but i been watching 16&pregnant..most of the girls on there seems to have lost friends,out side life,clubbing,etc..
did any of u ladies lose out on any of this?


Asked by FreeSpriT4eva at 10:18 PM on Nov. 16, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • well its fine. your children are older and its fine to go out and enjoy your life and even when they are younger its fine. everyone is different. do what is right for you. enjoy your life! you do not stop being you when you become a parent.

    Answer by lambdarose at 11:17 AM on Nov. 17, 2010

  • The things you mention are not losses a mature mother would consider being a loss.

    Answer by tootoobusy at 10:26 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I had my son at 16. I lost his dad, my friends, my figure, and dropped out of school, and I had no job. It sucked. But I never went to clubs or "partied" before, that's not normal teen stuff.

    Answer by Musicmom80 at 10:22 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I was little older 18 but yeah I gave up friends , drinking everything when you have a kid its time to grow up. You need to get job to rent a apt ect

    Answer by raisingmen at 10:23 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I lost all interest in friends (besides getting together for adult conversation), smoking, partying, guys, (I never drank), and socializing. I had a baby, so I stayed home and handled my business. That included school, work, and my son. Nothing else mattered. I didn't care.

    Answer by Sharell8710 at 10:30 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I was a teen mom. I had no fun.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:34 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. I had a live in boyfriend who I am now married too. We didn't do anything. i was never into partying. I graduated high school before I delivered. Then I went immediately to college. I graduated, now I am a senior in a BS program. Having kids did nothing but help me.

    Answer by ashisamom at 10:44 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • I went into MOM mode....I still don't go out and party and drink and whatever and he is 14.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:28 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • i consider it to me to be a loss..those that never got a chance to live the teen life before pregnacy it is considered a loss..tho i did these things bfore an most its what your teen yrs are all about..when u see them on teen moms these are things that they complain about missin the most..
    why couldnt a mom be mature an still do these things..

    Comment by FreeSpriT4eva (original poster) at 10:30 PM on Nov. 16, 2010

  • i the only parent who still goes out come on..that cant be right..
    im a college student,currently looking for a job again,have my own place but dang no one else goes out with there friends for ladies night out on fri..i dont drink or smoke..but we do get together to relieve stress of being moms,an students..we have been doin this since we had 2 oldest are teens now an some days are more stressful than others..i do need my adult convo outside the house..

    Comment by FreeSpriT4eva (original poster) at 10:34 PM on Nov. 16, 2010