I just found out that my brother's gf may be placing her baby for adoption when she is born in December. She isn't financially able to support two kids and my brother has been avoiding her for the last 2 months. The only down side is that we live half way across the country from them. I'm just looking for some input or ideas on what I should do. I has 2 SDs and we could financially support another baby, but I would the BM to still be a part of her life is possible.Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 8:23 PM on Nov. 3, 2008
I think that it takes a special person to want to adopt & bless you for wanting to help BUT,..yes there's a but, Don't enable your brother to take responsibility for his child. Why can't he be there for the baby. It's his child as much as it is the girlfriends. He should really step up. Have you spoken to your Brother about this? Make sure you really do your research first. Would your brother be careless enough to do this again & not take responsibility? You can't take all the babies in & I know its hard since this baby is a part of your family but understand your reasons for adopting & make sure that you are ready. I wish you the best of luck on your decision!
Answer by onespecialmom at 8:45 PM on Nov. 3, 2008
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Answer by vakatia at 9:33 PM on Nov. 3, 2008
How old is the female?, Is she going to come back sooner or later and want her baby back cause she made a mistake? My sister did this to me. I never saw my niece again cause her father picked her up from the sitters, whisked her off to another state and let his mother raise her. She grew up thinking that her father was her uncle. ( throwing up just thinking about it) Think about what your getting yourself into. Hearts are delicate when it comes to babies.
Answer by Star419 at 11:24 PM on Nov. 3, 2008
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