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A few questions about donating in memory of someone who has passed away

How much do you usually donate to a charity? How do you decide if you will donate? I've had 8 significant deaths so far in 2010. Some are close friends, so donating is not a question. But what about this - the wife of a boss from 10 years ago? I never met her. Or what about the parent of a co-worker (again someone never met). Normally I would donate, but with so many people passing away this is becoming a significant expense.

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Asked by Whimsee at 5:18 PM on Nov. 17, 2010 in Money & Work

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  • I usually only donate if it''s a family member or close friend. I think pay my respects at the funeral is enough for acquaintances.


    Answer by skittles1108 at 5:23 PM on Nov. 17, 2010

  • If it's not someone I knew well, I might toss in $5 in their memory.

    Answer by geminilove at 5:33 PM on Nov. 17, 2010

  • If a family member of one of our Associates passes away our company donates $75 in memory of that person. If I were donating my own money in memory of a co-workers family memory I would use the same amount or less depending on how close I am to the person. The wife of a boss from 10 years ago would depend on how much I still talk to the boss. Do I speak to them once a month? Then probably $50. Haven't spoken to them in a year, $25. It sounds cold but you have to determine it somehow.

    Answer by mommyslate at 6:45 PM on Nov. 17, 2010

  • I think the ex-boss and I have spoken once in the past ten years at someone's party. I can't "toss in" $5 -- I would have to mail these donations with a check directly to the charities. So how much is too much or too little for people you don't know/ knew very little? I was thinking about sending $20.

    Comment by Whimsee (original poster) at 7:42 PM on Nov. 17, 2010

  • There are no rules about this sort of thing. You donate what you can and only in the names of the people you chose.

    Answer by HotMama330 at 12:03 PM on Nov. 18, 2010

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