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Are you a talker or a non-talker?

Excerpt from article by Elizabeth Bernstein, WSJ (11/16/10)
"Many non-talkers are also non-listeners, they simply tune out the chatter. Non-talkers control the conversation. When they are done listening, the conversation is over."


Asked by tasches at 1:37 AM on Nov. 18, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (13)
  • I"m a Talker....

    Answer by ILOVEMYBOYS704 at 1:38 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • Well, I am a quiet person myself! I have found that you learn more about people and hear a lot more (especially when the big talkers think that no one is listening). I listen and I hear everything and I have an excellent memory to boot, I find it quite advantageous!!

    Answer by truthteller0722 at 1:49 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • non talker but what u say is definitely not true for me

    Answer by A11 at 1:52 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • Although, it often pisses people off!! But, I LOVE that!!!! because the big talkers usually have the big egos and hate to admit when they are wrong but if I was there, I take great pleasure in proving them wrong!! You would be surprised by what you can learn about people by keeping your mouth shut and your ears open!!!

    Answer by truthteller0722 at 1:53 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • Depends on the conversation, but unless you're just talking to hear your own voice (AKA worthless chatter), I am a listener when I am being a non-talker.

    Answer by Chocolatespring at 2:31 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • I don't talk much I'm extremely shy. I do listen!

    Answer by linalinalina at 3:25 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • My Gods, this describes my husband to a 'T'. He's a non-talker and a lousy listener. Communication issues have plagued our marriage from before day 1.

    Answer by isabellalecour at 9:45 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • I'm both. It all depends on the present situation

    Answer by joysweet at 3:51 PM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • Sorry to say, but more than not I am a Non-Talker.


    Answer by Shines3 at 1:39 AM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • big non-talkers can have BIgger psychosomatic "Edging God Out" egomaniacal issues, however Big talkers with big mouths can bring BIGGER Drama. I guess it's the difference between Aggression and Passive Aggression. I am both and sometimes neither, a fair conversation that is most fun for me is even keel. I find listening and pausing to respond is effective for turning around poor listening attentiveness and reactive exchange. though there are times I need to vent positive or negative, or discussion interest, and times I am more reserved and just an observer, confidante, active listener, validating, and acknowledging I am alert without cliche habitual responses. I find it's most difficult to be in control of myself the more personally invested I am in the relationship between myself and other speaker, and my energy level and mood influences my natural temperament. Treat others as you will be treated.

    Answer by freyjawire at 3:37 AM on Nov. 18, 2010