My son is not having a good year this year. He has had problems with focus since 1st grade, but is not disruptive or disrespectful. I talked to his teacher about this at the beginning of the year to let her know we're aware, we're working on the issue, please let us know what we can do, etc. Initially it seemed like she would work w/ us, but things have deteriorated. He has gotten sadder, more anxious. He came home crying last week because she snapped @ him "You clearly have NO focus!" She regains his attention by snapping her fingers @ him & yelling his name. He is feeling humiliated and the worst part is, he thinks it is his fault! She told the class Monday "If your parents complain that I'm mean, it is the way you all behave, not me." He told me that he & some other kids are responsible. He does well academically (A's & B's, reads @ 8th grade level) but his spirit is being broken.
I would NOT put up with my child being humiliated at school by a TEACHER...and educated professional. She is there to inspire as well as educate and it is clear from your description that she has forgotten that part of her job. I would definitely take it up with the school principal and if that didn't work I would go to the Superintendent of Schools.
If she keeps on with this old school method of teaching she could become liable for him not wanting to go to school due to fear of her and her pathetic methods of teaching. Teachers are supposed to be well remembered by their students and looked fondly back on...not looked back on with fear and dread.
I hope things improve with your son...he sounds like he's wonderful, most like is highly intelligent and finds her class boring and his mind just wonders off.
Answer by Missikat75 at 6:48 AM on Nov. 18, 2010
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Answer by minimo77 at 12:57 PM on Nov. 18, 2010
I have to tell you, third grade was my WORST ever, due to a terrible teacher. My mom was a third grade teacher for 33 years and says third grade is when the babying stops and the real work begins; teachers are expecting a lot more from them at this point. I woud definitely see if your son could be transferred...he should not have to endure this. Believe me, even all these years later I remember my horrible year in third grade.
Answer by 1smartcookie at 1:37 PM on Nov. 18, 2010