the story. been together 7 years. he had hid a lot of things from me. I mean we had issues he is not a bad person. sex is great but we had struggles there too. A year and 1/2 ago. He had a month affair with the ex. we have seen two counselors and we have good times. I couldnt see myself with anyone else. but he still hides things. I feel like i have to watch his ever move and says i dont need to know what he is doing. if you read a last post, he made a secret email account to email some woman , it was stupid to hide,,. any way then i wanted to talk about things and he didn't . he acts like i dont have a right to know what he is doing. especially when he is out with the guys. so later i said i wanted a divorce and things would never change, he would always just do what he wants and hide. it.. its more complicated,but i feel terrible giving up and wish i could trust him but i cant and he is gonna deploy soon , Help?
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Answer by RedRowan at 10:28 AM on Nov. 18, 2010
wow! I feel like I just read my story. What has helped me and my husband get through things is knowing each other's love language. Read the book The 5 Languages of Love....you will be amazed at how it will help!! Here is the website you can check out www.5lovelanguages.com. Also, we are reading a couple of other books right now that is helping, The Power of a Praying Wife (Husband) and Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage. Try these books and continue counselling. Good Luck! I hope things will work out for you both. My husband and I are doing great and we thought it was pointless to stay together. It will get better if you follow those books (definitely check out the love language book).
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