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How do you get a child to pay attention to his teachers?

Our 9yr old son (3rd grade) has a bad habit of not paying attention in school, he likes to fly his pencils like airplains and just go into his own little world it has happened for the past 3 yrs now in school. We talk to him but he still has it happening! :(


Asked by jem102675 at 4:14 PM on Nov. 18, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • ADHD symptoms are consistent - they don't just happen in school or just happen at home. You stated that he has trouble paying attention "to his teachers" and "at school".
    How do you get him to pay attention? Punish him. When you learn that he is not doing what his teachers request, you restrict his privileges. When he is misbehaving, he loses activities. When his behavior improves consistently, he gets privileges and activities back.
    It's clear that "talking to him" hasn't made it clear that you find this a very important matter and you will not accept this behavior. You need to take action.

    Answer by ihatetocook at 4:42 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Have you had him tested for problems? Or evaluated at school? Talk to your pediatrician and his teachers and tell them you want him evaluated.

    Answer by elizabr at 4:52 PM on Nov. 18, 2010

  • I wouldn't even worry about this unless his work is lacking. My son is 6 and just started kindergarten this year and for the first few weeks he was getting distracted and not paying attention or finishing work so it became an issue but really it was just because he was trying to get used to the new situation. Just try & talk with your son & explain it's important for him to pay attention.

    Answer by oahoah at 12:05 AM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • He may have ADHD if this hasn't ceased in 3 yrs. This is a symptom of ADHD and if he is disrupting class enough to get an email or call from the teacher/principal then there is a problem. My 12 yo dd has had this issue and more since kindergarten. Mostly it's been 'if a boy throws a pencil, she throws one back', 'if a kid pokes her, she pokes him back'. Lack of impulse control is ADHD too. She has grown out of some symptoms but the lack of impulse control and w/her tongue too is a problems now that puberty has set in. Nip it in the bud and get help early. Good luck! I know 1st hand how infuriating it is to get calls, etc from school.

    Answer by cat4458 at 7:17 AM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • He's either bored because he's not being challenged enough or he has ADD or ADHD...I would have him tested...instead of this being a negative result he could be gifted, but either way I would have the school test. As far as the other two, a doctor will have to test him and make a determination.

    Answer by Queenofscrap at 4:37 PM on Nov. 20, 2010

  • I would have a professional evaluate him. He could possibly have ADD. Otherwise, what little boy doesn't get bored at school? There's also the possibility that he is advanced and the work bores him.

    Answer by Shanna84 at 8:45 AM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • Your child may/may not have ADD you should take your child to the doctor and tell him/her what is going on before doing anything else.

    Answer by shabbypink123 at 1:19 PM on Nov. 24, 2010

  • sit in the class room now and then

    Answer by dorispierce at 1:43 PM on Nov. 24, 2010