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my husband a computer that he will not give me permission to get on this has been going on for five years what is really going on.

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Asked by sherry2680 at 2:29 PM on Nov. 19, 2010 in Relationships

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  • He may not want anyone else exposing his computer to malware, viruses, etc, or messing with his settings. As long as you have a computer that you can use, then it's fine. If he won't let you have a computer, or use one, then it's time for you to get one.

    Answer by Bmat at 2:31 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • I don't use my SO's mac or desktop AT ALL. Period. they're his, I have no reason to use them.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 2:34 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Unless the computer is one issued by work that would be a problem for me. Why the lack of trust? My husband has often had laptops that are issued through work. I understand that. His personal computer that is 'untouchable' to his wife reeks of something to hide to me.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 2:34 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • your question is not written in a way that it can be understood to me..

    Answer by CarlieJS at 2:35 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • To clarify: I have a computer that is designated MINE. He has one designated his. I never get on his computer because I have no need. From time to time he is on mine to fix something but not for just being on. My point is we choose not to use the others computer...but it is NOT as if we are locked out of one anothers PC. His government laptop different story. It is for work, not my there is classified stuff and all. Even if there wasn't classified's not my business.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 2:37 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Everyone uses my computer but I don't allow anybody to download or install anything. Maybe he enjoys keeping his comp just the way he likes it and not having to worry about viruses and such. I wish I could keep everybody off mine. But.....
    The fact that he won't even let you look at it is strange. What other signs do you have that he may be doing something less than honest?

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 2:40 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Why don't you ask him? We can all guess why all day long but what's the point?

    Answer by Syphon at 2:41 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • I would wonder why?  Caught my DH cheating twice and he was caught because of stuff on the computer.



    Answer by christinato at 2:46 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • 5 yrs is a long time
    has this conversation EVER come up?
    either he has his won computer
    he has a reason he does not want you on

    no way to know with info given

    Answer by fiatpax at 2:51 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • im too "open door" for that to happen...Me & my husband openly share passwords because there is nothing to hide.. If there is nothing to hide then there is nothing to search for.. locking things up only make you wonder & question..

    If its for security reasons because of work that is something else & is understandable.

    Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 2:59 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

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