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How do you discipline without yelling or spanking?

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jennifer815

Asked by jennifer815 at 3:58 PM on Nov. 19, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • time outs
    pookipoo

    Answer by pookipoo at 3:58 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • time out
    mommy5409

    Answer by mommy5409 at 3:59 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Time outs and taking things away they like to play with
    jem102675

    Answer by jem102675 at 4:00 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • We use time outs, and we use ultimatums. "You can either stop (misbehaving/throwing/hitting), or we're leaving/taking the toy away/going to time out." He usually responds with No, then behaves himself. There are exceptions!! But we're not a spanking or yelling house, either. It's all about patience and consistency
    musicpisces

    Answer by musicpisces at 4:05 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Every child is different. The important thing is to give your child positive reinforcement, and "good" attention. Make sure you keep the rules simple and be consistent with what should be guided. In our home we have only one rule, "The number one rule is to listen." Make sure these rules are also followed by every family member. Last but not least, don't let him or her get away with something at home when he or she is not suppose to act like that in public--this can be confusing and lead to attention/discipline problems in the future.

    Cyndi2Clean4U

    Answer by Cyndi2Clean4U at 4:09 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • Time outs. And the ultimatums are good, too, as musicpisces said. For my DD that lets her feel like she is making a choice so she still has some control. It also avoids little temper tantrums to let her pick between two coats, or which fruit she wants for lunch, etc. If you give lots of little choices during the day (of two things you already approve of anyway) then they feel like they have some control and they are less likely to battle over things when they don't have a choice. (I have a toddler so these won't work forever, but for this age they seem to do the trick.)
    MaryMW

    Answer by MaryMW at 4:10 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • We always took away the thing that was most important to them. Usually worked well.
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 8:03 PM on Nov. 19, 2010

  • I used time outs and taking things away at preschool age. Like taking away a favorite stuffed animal for the night. I never yelled though I have spanked, but I respect your right not to spank.
    Iamasinglemom99

    Answer by Iamasinglemom99 at 1:49 AM on Nov. 20, 2010

  • time out & taking away toys/privileges.

    Ashlynnsmommy07

    Answer by Ashlynnsmommy07 at 12:41 AM on Nov. 21, 2010

  • thanks for all of your suggestions! we were using timeout. it's just a huge struggle to get him there and stay put! now i think we'll try timeout and taking away toys.
    jennifer815

    Comment by jennifer815 (original poster) at 8:27 AM on Nov. 21, 2010

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