My mother gave me over to my grandparents (maternal side) when I was 9...always with the promise that I'd come back one day and live with her. I was an AD/HD child and she was an alcoholic/substance abuser.
Not a good mix.
She rarely visited and when she did she and my grandmother would play Boggle and video-games together...I was Never included and many times told to go to my room so they could concentrate.
The day never came when I got to move back..it just kept getting postponed and postponed finally I graduated high school and there went that illusion.
When I had my son I kind of had hoped that she would see this time as a time when she could do things with my Bradley that she never did with me since she was sober....that hasn't happened either.
She always tells me that she wants to be closer to me and to build a relationship but she never calls or sees me even when we lived right near each other and when she has called it's been to borrow money or give her a ride or something for HER.
Whenever I've EVER asked her for a favor she tries to make me feel guilty and acts "all put out" like I'm draining her of her life blood!
One time it was so I could get to the hospital because my stitches were bleeding after my cancer surgery...she wouldn't take me and I had to find another way!
I recently invited her to Thanksgiving at my home and offered to pick her up (we now live 450m apart...I just moved a few months ago) and take her back the following day.
I only offered this to her because she was complaining that she didn't want to spend the holidays without me (ha!) and the rest of the family which usually fights with each other.
Now after not hearing a response from her (and initially when brought up she was enthusiastic about it) in several days I texted her and she responded "Sorry I Can't".
I'm crushed....I'll be without my Crappy Family for the first time in MY LIFE on Thanksgiving...but they're MY Crappy Family! :o(
And I actually thought she might come through for me this once!
But once again she's let me down...I just don't know what to do anymore about her.
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