I am happily married to the man I have been with since I was 17. We got engaged when I was 18. We are all about family, even before we became one ( we are both very close with each others families), we both believe that it is better to have a family now and then to have "our time" when our kids are grown and we can actually enjoy "our time" .
We were engaged, had the date, the place, the dress, everything... then I got pregnant. I would have been 7 months on our wedding date and I just didnt want to get married while that noticably pregnant ( plus I wouldnt have fit into my dress). So we just did a quick little wedding with close family ( and will do a renewing of the vows and reception for our 5 year ) ...
I am a stay at home mom, my husband has a wonderful job ( that his dad and grandpa worked for too ). We have a nice house that we just bought, we both have 2009 autos, and our daughter can have anything she could want.
We are happy, but I understand that EVERY marriage has a 50% of working out.. that is true wether I am 19 or 40 . If that would happen I would do as any stay at home mom would have to do to make it ( get a job, sell stuff, etc) ....The same as if he would lose his job...
Now we had this thing where I live where they were interviewing women and basically having a setting of teen moms to tell their story ( I guess to get other teens not to become teen parents) ..
I understand that most teen moms would not be / are not as lucky as I am , that they would have to struggle .. but that doesnt mean i should have lied, does it? I am proud of who I am and what I have done, even before I became a mommy I knew this is what I wanted.
Anyways, after the telling of our stories there was a part where people could ask us questions and such... I had a girl tell me that I should get a job because my free ride could be over at any minute... and there was a group around her who clapped when she said it... Of course i thought it was rude, but I just replied how I did above... that any stay at home mom, wether they are 19 or 40 would deal with it in their own way and that every marriage has 50% of working...Her "rebuttle" was that i should get a job so i wouldnt teach my daughter to become a teen mom ..... Do you agree with that ?!?!?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:15 PM on Nov. 19, 2010 in Parenting Debate
Hon, by the time I got to the end of your question, I had to go back up and start all over again, because it's wayyyyyy toooo long and I forgot what you said. After reading again, I am still trying to figure out WTH you are trying to ask. If it's should you get a job? Well, you are only 19, chances are at some time in your life you are totally going to need to at least have some type of skill, so maybe a part time job would be good for you.
Answer by anony-mous at 11:20 PM on Nov. 19, 2010
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Answer by sweet29mom at 11:25 PM on Nov. 19, 2010
Honestly I think people should mind their own business. I had my older daughter at 16 and my younger when I was 21. I have been a sahm on and off for years (I worked with the schools a few years before deciding to homeschool our girls). I am still married to the same man and I plan on staying that way. I'm so sick of hearing people say that young marriages won't last. It's crap. We have been married for 15 years and I can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. All marriages take work, and some people are too lazy to invest that into them. Kudos to you for standing your ground and being an awesome mom!
Answer by scout_mom at 11:25 PM on Nov. 19, 2010
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