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How do you find a church?

I would like to find a church for my family. However I do NOT want my kids being exposed to the narrow minded views I've been exposed to in church. I want a demonation that respects everyone's views and does not believe non-chrisitians are going to hell. We live in the south and in my town the Southern Baptists rule. How do I research a church's views without offending?


Asked by Anonymous at 11:03 AM on Jul. 5, 2008 in Religion & Beliefs

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Answers (12)
  • We go the non-denominational route.
    Look online or in the yellow pages for a church
    If you can't find one that way, you can go meet with the pastors during the week to feel them out, or research their denomination.

    Answer by TXdanielly at 12:31 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • Why bother with a church?? I'm sorry I'm not trying to offend, but all the church is good for is socialization. You can teach and raise your kids as you see fit from home. It won't make them any less spiritual. That's what I ended up doing. But don't worry about "offending" anyone in your research. Someone is always going to be offended. You can't possibly please everybody. If it's not for you just say "Thank You for your time, I just don't think this is right for me." no one should take offense to that assuming they are true to their faith.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 11:11 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • I would look for churches in your area and see if you can find one that is non-denominational. I've always felt kind of outcast in churches, but now that I'm going to a Christian non-denominational church I feel so much love it's ridiculous. They're so open minded and the entire atmosphere is so relaxed (especially compared to Southern Baptist!)

    Answer by MamaPyratekk at 11:18 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • I want the communilty for our son. At your Christion non-denominational church what are the views on Jesus?

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:27 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • The church itself honestly doesn't bring up things like that often because they know that we have a varied group of people there to worship. I think that the majority of the church body believes in the Trinity (being Jesus is God incarnate) however it's not something that is taught outright by the pastor. The church's sermons are based more on life lessons. For instance, our last group of sermons was called "Honest To God". It was about, well, HONESTY! Then we had the youth pastor do a sermon and it was all about the views non-Christians have about Christians (references from a book called "Unchristian") and about how we should work to fight those stereotypes. I don't know if that's how all non-denominationals work, but that's how ours is! :)

    Answer by MamaPyratekk at 11:35 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • BTW I know that you wouldn't be going to the church I go to lol, but if you're interested in listening to the sermons from our church so that you could make your own judgments on what a non-denominational church is like then we have podcasts of Sunday services...

    Answer by MamaPyratekk at 11:37 AM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • We have moved to the south and have also been offended by some of the teaching of fear and judgements instead of love. We found a non-denominational church and our pastor is wonderful. I would just visit prior to taking my kids to find a good church home. Look at the churchs mission can be telling. If the church has a sign with messages posted...those can really tell you alot about a church and how they teach. good luck..don't give up...there are many wonderful churches out there. And I almost forgot the most important #1. Pray about it.

    Answer by MommasCooCoo at 12:21 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • You can always call a new church up and set up and interview with the pastor or whatever and ask him these questions directly. They should not be offended.  I to am in the South and churches down here are VERY VERY different  than northern state churches. My problem with ALL the churches I've looked into joining is the top 3 sheets of paperwork are all about how much $$ we make and our investment portfolio's.....How is that important? Unless the church is concerned first with getting it's tithe.

    Answer by vbruno at 1:48 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • One way to find what a "church" or a groups beliefs is the Internet:

    For example:
    Lutheran (Missouri Synod):  

    Lutheran (ELCA): 

    Lutheran (WELS):  



    Seventh-Day Adventist:  

    more next post....


    Answer by SAHMinIL at 2:47 PM on Jul. 5, 2008

  • Continue from previous post:

    There are others as well... Most of them will also tell you where a church is in your area. The plus side of using the Internet in this way is it allows you to see what they teach before going to a local church.... Once you've done your research then go visit a local church :)

    Hope this helps.....God Bless


    Answer by SAHMinIL at 2:49 PM on Jul. 5, 2008