Okay, so let me get started by saying that I will never cheat on or leave my SO because he is THE BEST thing to ever happen to me. We have a wonderful relationship and a beautiful family together.
My issue is that before I met my SO I was EXTREMELY interested in a guy. We talked a lot, would hang out and watch movies as a group with friends and such. He said he wasn't interested in a relationship because I was considering moving and if I did he didn't want to get start something, get attached and then things not work out. He has an awesome personality and is very handsome. (Same as my SO.) We have stayed friends minus a tiff about a year ago (around the time I started dating my SO) where he got pissy with me and we didn't really end things... but just stopped talking for a few months.
Well, I was getting the feeling he only kept me around to be nice so I bluntly asked him (I prefer straightforward relationships with family, loved ones and friends... it just makes life easier) if he felt that way and he made the comment that "we used to date". I told him we never dated ebcause he didn't want to and he said that he did but I chose differently. WTH?!
ANYWAYS, I told him the past is the past and it isn't healthy to dwell on closed chapters in the book of life (yes I should take my own advice, but I want to know WHY I feel this way) and left it at that.
But why do I still feel as if I FEEL for him? As if I wish I could be with him sometimes? We don't even have the same conversations we used to and talk persoanlly and stuff... we just talk about work and life in general. And I am so happy with my family and my SO. So WHY would I have this tugging urge?
It drives me crazy to think I have even the slightest emotion towards another man. :( And I feel like a cheating whore for even having this small flicker of emotion for someone else even though I never have and never would do anything. :(
Is this simply the fact that I now know I could have had something I wanted, but at the time didn't think I could have?
[I hope I didn't leave anything out.]
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