i adopted a son and reunited with him. recently he has made some really bad choices and want to talk to him about it but i'm not sure it's my place. has anyone felt like this? what did you do?
Answer by PhantomsFairie at 5:13 AM on Nov. 23, 2010
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 12:51 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
I think you tread dangerous territory. I personally would let him know you are available and open if he ever wants to talk but not try to force him to listen or to suggest what to even talk about. Just let him know you can listen to anything and leave it at that. If he has made poor choices then that is all on him and who he goes to for seeking support is up to him. All he can do is take a look around and make a decision about who he wants to confide in. And if he doesn't think he made poor choices....you just have to let him hit bottom all the while saying you are willing to listen. It is difficult for parents to let their adult children hit bottom or fail, to make painfully wrong choices for their lives, but if you want a child to come out the other end healthy on their own terms - it is what you have to do.
Answer by frogdawg at 4:20 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
I am reunited with my 22 year old son. He's made and continues to make bad choices. I just tell him "you know I don't approve of that behaviour" or "I don't think that's a smart thing for you to do." That's about all I can do. Check out the adoption reunion group http://www.cafemom.com/group/14715
Answer by onethentwins at 7:58 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
Answer by coolchic320 at 8:05 PM on Nov. 22, 2010
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