Ok, so I had an affair on my hubby like 6 months ago. He knows about it, didn't say anything, and doesn't want to talk about it. His motto is "ignore it and the problems go away". My DH and I obviously have had a lot of problems, and it doesn't excuse the fact of my behavior/actions.
First question: Do you think it's normal for him not to be jealous, or mad, or upset?
I've ask him if he wanted to divorce me, he says no. Not that I want a divorce, but, is that normal too?
Asked by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on Nov. 21, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Kathy675 at 5:10 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
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Answer by sue118 at 5:18 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
Answer by fiatpax at 5:29 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
Everyone does not deal with things the same way. Like the one poster said maybe he is in denial. Maybe it will come out later. He could just be one of those men who bury stuff. I would say he'd rather be with you than without you. I think he loves you and just wants to ignore it and make it go away and resume his life with you. I know men like that who have been the same way as your husband. I wouldn't push him anymore to talk about it, if he wants to let him bring it up and take life as it comes. I hope everything works out for the both of you.
Answer by Shines3 at 5:38 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
You know, I think when and if he is ever ready to talk about he will. I think you should stop being selfish about the whole situation. It seems as though YOU want to talk about it because it is bothering YOU. And because YOU wanted to satisfy YOUR needs for whatever reason, now YOU are in this situation.
Some people just love someone so much they would rather not discuss what happened, and just forget about it.
Don't force him to talk about it because YOU think that is what supposed to be done
Answer by sheloveearth at 5:47 PM on Nov. 21, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 6:17 PM on Nov. 21, 2010